"You can't stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes." --Winnie the Pooh
In light of some recent events, I feel that is time to write about friendships. I have been refraining from writing on this topic too soon as my cousin recently wrote about it. But, I just can't wait any longer!
I think there is something unique that happens in the summer. Summer is a time of transition. Relationships of all kinds change... Maybe it's the people that change. I honestly don't know. Another speculation I have is that summer is also just a great time for reflection, which is simply what I am doing now.
When I think about it, I am kind of amazed at all of the friendships I have had in my life. Some friendships are still going strong and blossoming with each season. Others have fluttered away like the fall leaves drifting in the wind-- like that, they're gone. And other friendships have ended (or will end) for a reason; because I cut them off or they weren't meant to be. Lots of changes. Lots of learning.
While losing a friend is never an easy process, I have learned that often times it is good in the long-term. In those times I have learned more about myself and what I value in a friendship/relationship. For example, I have no tolerance for those that do not put in any effort into the relationship. I feel that in order for a relationship to be successful, it takes two people putting in the effort and energy. When you put in the effort to something it shows that you care-- it is an active process. Effort keeps the relationship alive.
To this end, that has been one major factor in how I determine whether or not I remove someone from the ties of friendship. Believe me, I work extremely hard in my friendships. They are not something I take lightly-- I do everything I can before deciding to end them. However, as I have learned, sometimes people are just passing through. Not every friendship can be life-long. Regardless of how long a friendship is meant to last I believe they shouldn't be treated as though they are temporary.
While only time can tell whether a friendship is life-long, I feel so blessed for the ones I have in my life now. I am so blessed for my close friends (some of which are family), the ones here and those far away. I feel confident in the fact that I will have these certain friendships for years to come. They all bring so much joy to my life and I have learned so much from them. The future ahead is questionable and unwritten, no telling what will happen. I have no idea who I will meet and what other friendships I will form. For those that I hold dear know this: I carry your heart (I carry it in my heart).... *